Chapter 1: Embracing the Writing Community

Writing on Medium can be a fulfilling way to express your thoughts and experiences. It's a platform that allows you to share both the highs and lows of life, connecting with others along the way.

Personally, I've found joy in writing for Medium. It's a budget-friendly alternative to therapy, allowing me to save much of what I earn into what I humorously refer to as my 'secret bank account.' Although it’s not truly secret, as my husband is aware of it. His name isn't associated with it, but if he ever asked, I’d likely share some funds.

One of my favorite subjects to write about is my husband, Eddie. I've made nearly three thousand dollars by penning stories about him. One particular piece, which I initially intended as a lighthearted joke, received a surprising range of reactions—both positive and negative. While many people joined in the laughter, I also faced criticism, predominantly from men. A few women expressed their longing for their husbands, which I completely understand.

In the end, I had to clarify my intentions in an update. As for Eddie, he remains indifferent to my writings; he hasn’t read them and prefers not to. However, he certainly enjoyed the new laptop and phone I bought him with my earnings.

With Eddie now semi-retired and working at a golf course, I find myself exploring new topics. Lately, I have been focusing on retirement and aging, especially after losing two siblings and attending several funerals last year. These experiences have prompted me to reflect on mortality, even my own.

Once I publish a story, I eagerly read the comments. I appreciate the connections I feel with my readers, even if they are not traditional friendships. Although most feedback is encouraging, I occasionally encounter harsh criticism. Personally, when I dislike an article, I simply move on without resorting to negativity; everyone is entitled to their perspective.

While I usually overlook rude remarks, I occasionally respond. Just today, I found myself engaging with a bully, which only led to further rudeness. Reflecting on this, I realize my reaction was influenced by frustrations I’ve been experiencing in my personal life. It’s reminiscent of the saying, “sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can hurt just as deeply.”

It's baffling why some individuals choose to spread negativity. I’ve considered various strategies to manage such situations: turning off comments would be disheartening, as I value interactions with my supportive readers. Alternatively, hiding or reporting rude comments can diminish a bully's satisfaction, as they thrive on reactions. I've reported a few comments myself, though I'm uncertain of the outcomes. Blocking users is also an option; I've done it several times, and I've been blocked as well.

Reflecting on my day, I feel annoyed at myself for allowing a stranger’s words to affect me. It's disheartening to think some people derive pleasure from making hurtful comments. In the future, I’ll remember to respond with kindness, perhaps using our Southern phrase, “Bless your heart!” It’s a gentle reminder to keep writing and to ignore the negativity from bullies in the comment section.

Love,

Ruby Lee

Here are more stories about my husband, Eddie. Enjoy!

In the video titled "When Bullies are Just a Click Away - Talking Through Sensitive Issues On My Blog," I discuss the impact of online negativity and how to address it.

The second video, "Here's What You Can Do When Parents Bring Up Bullying," offers practical advice for parents facing discussions about bullying.