Embracing Aging: 3 Questions You Shouldn't Waste Time On
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Chapter 1: Challenging Aging Stereotypes
In our fast-paced lives filled with responsibilities and concerns, it's perplexing that certain questions about aging remain prevalent. These inquiries only serve to reinforce negative stereotypes without offering any valuable insights.
We are all busy individuals, so why are we fixated on these outdated questions?
Section 1.1: What Do You Call Yourself?
Many writers find themselves fretting over labels such as “seniors” or “elders.”
Why is it necessary to define yourself by your age? Shouldn't you be engaged in living your life rather than categorizing it? If you find yourself with nothing to do, perhaps it’s time to seek out a meaningful challenge.
For example, I am a well-educated and accomplished professional. I take on various roles: a stand-up comedian, a business owner, a cat parent, and a writer. What more is there to say?
Section 1.2: To Dye or Not to Dye?
Is choosing to color your hair less authentic than embracing gray?
Let’s be real—I’ve dyed my hair since I was 25. If you were born a brunette but feel more like a blonde or if you want to flaunt your red-headed spirit, go for it!
Unless you are allergic to the dye or cannot afford the upkeep, what’s the hold-up? If you love your natural color, just let your stylist know that you’re happy as you are. Don't let others’ opinions dictate your choices.
Chapter 2: Health and Aging Myths
The first video, "Why You Shouldn't Tell People Your Age," discusses how age can be a limiting factor in the way we perceive ourselves and how others see us.
How do you handle age-related issues like sagging skin or back pain?
A former neighbor of mine, who was a registered nurse, once quipped, “Everyone over sixty has back problems.” This stereotype is not only ageist but also fundamentally incorrect.
If you’re experiencing back pain or other discomforts, seek help from a qualified doctor or physical therapist. You might be surprised at how many issues can be addressed with professional guidance.
Some conditions are simply the result of genetics, accidents, or just plain bad luck—not age.
The second video, "Children Should Take Care of Their Aging Parents and Other Myths - BUSTED by a Geriatric Doctor!" debunks the misconceptions surrounding aging and familial responsibilities.
Moving beyond physical attributes, it’s time to stop being defined by superficial traits.
For instance, a Medium channel called "Crows Feet" could offer valuable content, but why base a community around such a negative label?
What’s the issue with these persistent questions?
They encourage the notion that aging is synonymous with decline. Instead of fostering self-esteem, they propagate stereotypes that can affect our interactions with others—be it clients, employers, or friends.
Next time you find yourself caught up in these detrimental questions, redirect your energy towards something more enjoyable and productive.
Catharine (“Cathy”) Goodwin, a former college professor turned online marketing consultant, writes about healthcare, psychology, and aging stereotypes.
If you enjoyed this article, you’ll likely appreciate Cathy’s book, When I Get Old I Plan To Be A Bitch. It presents a candid and humorous take on aging, featuring chapters like, “I Ain’t Miss Congeniality,” and “Take This Pill and Shove It.” Click here for the purchase link (with some trigger warnings for sensitive readers).